Saturday, February 23, 2013
Monday, January 28, 2013
Mishaps, Mistakes, and Misery
A few weeks ago, I was having lunch with my sister downtown, when I had a little accident. I am a terrible parallel parker, and in trying to park, I hit another car. This has never happened to me before, and although the damage was minimal, I was afraid to tell B. We have only been married for 4 months, and he's still traveling out of town each week, so I wasn't sure what the best way would be to tell him. With my heart beating fast, I called him on the phone and spilled the story. And you know what his reaction was? "It's no big deal, I'm just glad you're ok." That was it. Once he got home and actually saw the car, we had a little chuckle about my parking skills, and we moved on. The End.
Fast forward to this past weekend. Although I won't go into the details, B. did something that I thought was incredibly stupid. (I'm not proud to say that, but I'm being honest here). As the time progressed, and we dealt with the consequences of his decision, I got madder and madder, until finally, I blew up and snapped at him. A much different reaction than the one he gave me after my bad parking experience.
As I have been studying Eve, I have been more and more convicted about my role as a wife, and how often I fail to meet the requirements. In his book Twelve Extraordinary Women, John MacArthur explains the roles this way,
So, why do I find it so hard to fulfill my roles? Although I love being a mom, I can't say that I am always great at comforting and nurturing my kids (or husband), and I certainly am not always a happy helper. When the situation arose this past weekend, instead of pointing out the discomfort I was facing, I should have stood behind my husband the same way he did me. My attitude should have been, "It's no big deal. I'm glad we're all ok." Because we were. No harm was done, and one day in the future, I know we will look back on that time and chuckle.
May God continue to point out ways in which I fail my family, so that in the future when mistakes and mishaps occur, instead of following it up with misery, I can show our family mercy and create a merry atmosphere.
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
When Will I Learn to Trust that my Husband Means What He Says?
Friday, October 26, 2012
"When a man’s ways please the LORD, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him." (Proverbs 16:7 ESV)
Thursday, October 25, 2012
"We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;" (2 Corinthinans 4:8 ESV)
But do you know what upset me most of all? That I didn't get to do what I wanted to do. Yes, my thoughts were that selfish.
You see, I had spent a lot of time planning two surprise dates for our weekend. On Saturday, we were supposed to drop P off at my aunt's, then head to dinner at Outback and go to a corn maze in the dark. I had even made up this cute invitation for B:
But as we were going to bed last night, B. reminded me that God is in the process of growing us. As I thought over the events of the weekend, I saw many areas in which God was teaching us to work together as a couple, and strengthening our bond, and I have to say, I do feel much closer to him than I did before.
The biggest lesson though was mine, and as I pondered the ways things went versus the way they could have gone, I was thankful to the Lord for challenging me and providing me a chance to grow as a wife. I only hope that the next time it will be easier for me to disregard the selfish route and put my family first without thought.